As a good friend said to me once, while I was venting about the work a primary partnership takes to uphold, "relationships are hard." Truer words were never spoken. While I do believe in love at first sight, tingly feelings, and magic, I also believe in the gritty, constant hard work partners must do to maintain and deepen that love over time. We often fall into unhelpful communication patterns. We feel we are right, but don't take the time to pause and truly hear what our p

Why am I drawn to working with folks who have survived trauma? Why do I choose to spend my time hearing narratives of intense trauma? It's a question I have asked myself. Part of the answer has to do with the way trauma recovery is basic to the work we do in therapy. Part of it has to do with the populations I've had the honor of serving-- communities living under the trauma of poverty and oppression; Black and Brown folks, LGBTQ folks, and gender nonconforming poeple all ha