Chosen Family Healing


family therapy for adult relationship constellations

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I don’t do family therapy in the conventional sense. I practice what I call Chosen Family Systems Therapy.

I see you in context: how your family-of-origin patterns show up in your family dynamics; how power and roles get distributed; where the stuck points are. I work inside of the messy, beautiful, complicated webs of relationship that actually make up our lives.

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This kind of therapy work might be right for you if you're navigating:

  • Adult siblings working through conflict or ruptures (especially around gender identity, coming out, or old family wounds)

  • Adult children and their parents navigating acceptance—or lack thereof—around LGBTQ+ identity

  • Extended family members trying to repair relationships

Family Conflict Healing

Chosen Family & Intentional Community Conflict

  • Roommates or housemates in intentional communities dealing with deep, underlying issues

  • Chosen family members who've hit a breaking point and need help finding their way back to each other

  • Friendship groups navigating major ruptures

Queer & Non-Traditional Structure Conflict

  • Queer families including known donors, multiple parents, chosen uncles/aunts/families navigating fertility stress and relational tension

Support for Parents and Those doing Care Work

  • I have a background in working with multi-stressed families with children as well as with parents. While I don’t work with children at this time, I understand deeply the pressures and stresses parents face and the family and community support we often lack. I can help busy parents carve out time for the reflection, resourcing, and nervous system regulation that can be so vital to providing care to young children. These practices  can also apply to those caring for elders, or engaging in care work (healers of all stripes, community organizers, social justice warriors)

Nothing about your family structure will shock me. All configurations welcome. 

We’ll work together to shift the patterns that aren't serving you anymore and build the relationships you actually want.

*Please note: I am not working with children or couples at this time.

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